Suppressing vs. Expressing

 Balai Seni Lukis Visual Negara's last year exhibition.

 Hello, everyone. May all of you guys are in good-being of wherever and whatever you are at the moment. Due to another PKPB especially in Sabah and Selangor & KL & WP Putrajaya, I pray that may Allah suffice us with enough strength, patience and strong will to get through everything. 

For today's entry, I've been keeping this one as a draft. So, here it is.

I couldn't say how much it might relate to any of you, but have you ever been in a situation where you most likely wish to speak up about things that look important to you but you just can't because of unavoidable circumstances that you have foreseen if you just let it all out? Or, once you've done it either accidentally or not because we human have our own limit and you just end up either feeling guilty, overthink of everything etc.?

Yes or no, you sure do at least experience any of those situations. 

We humans are a very complex being created by God all thanks to the gift that only we were created with - our mind. The brain itself are so complex with thousands even billions of neurones connected to one another within every seconds of our life upon learning or experiencing something. That's what make us as a person with a unique features, because each of us have our own different thoughts, opinions or perspectives on something. 

But, other than the mind itself that Allah has given to us, there's other characteristic that were given to us - feelings. The ability to feel all sorts of feelings are what has given us the responsibility, slash amanah to lead the world with fair and justice - although these two things are rarely to be seen when money and power has turned away the best of us to help each other in our current situation - until monsieur kovit hits us.

Moving on to my actual intention of writing. Often times, when we found ourself gotten into an arguments that has interfered with our 'peace' state of mind and way of life, we have two choice. It's either we continue to just suppress whatever the thoughts or feelings that linger within us, or you might want to express it in a tolerable, well-manared way. True, you don't want anything bad to happen that will bring an effect to your relationship with one another - let it be your own family, friends, partner or teachers etc. But, for all I know, expressing is better rather than just suppressing ourselves that could kill all the kinds of possibilities that might strengthen our bonds together.

It's an unavoidable. The hypothesis is like this - the more we suppress trying to put the end on matters that we found it's hard to reach an agreement to solve it together (kononlah padahal di mana ada jalan di situ ada solusinya, selalu), the higher the possibility it is for us to not trust with each other. In this matter most importantly, ourselves. We were so afraid that we might end up being terpinggir when actually who knows our opinions might save the day. 

Contrary to expressing, we humans are actually was created to express ourselves. If we don't, how can we possibly knew what's going on in your complex mind and feelings without letting it all out? You can't just assume that it's going to be fine and all, without letting others know what's actually bothering you. And when one doesn't "understand" you, you expect them to know everything when it's actually you didn't express your thoughts or feelings on certain matters that has occurred in your life.

Expectations are actually a silent killer. That's when assumptions was created and eventually, turned off the best possible ways to work things out together - even for as simple as asking 'hey do you still need that bread? Can i have some or do you want to open the new one?'.

I'm saying this from my own experience and maybe would love to do some readings about this matter more. What I can conclude fo this one is, if that matters are big to you and need to do an improvement about it, it's okay to express your thoughts and feelings about it for as long as it doesn't cross the boundaries. Be tolerant and reasonable while doing so too. If suppressing can do you good without having to torn down your emotions and mental ability, it's okay either for as long you didn't start to overthink of it. 

Apa kata orang kebanyakan; bercakap hanya bila perlu. Kalau benda tu boleh mendatangkan keburukan, usaha sebaik mungkin untuk memperbaikinya bersama. Lagipun, sebagai manusia kita memerlukan pertolongan antara satu sama lain dalam memperbaiki diri sendiri. 

Every day is a new day with new lessons to be learn. 

That's all from me. Do drop your comments and opinion if you have some regarding this post, hiks. Thank you and may Allah bless!